I was indulging in a moment of stillness — sitting in a sauna, which seems to be all the rage here in South Devon — during my much-needed Christmas break. No emails. No to-do lists. No emotional labour. Just heat, quiet, and the faint hope my brain might power down for five minutes. That peace didn’t last long. A woman in her seventies struck up a conversation and asked what I did for work. When I told her, she nodded knowingly and said, “I bet you’re busy. Everyone’s got a m