It was something my brother—now in his mid-fifties—once shared with me, framed as a kind of character-building milestone.  “It taught me resilience,”  he said, with a shrug that seemed to tuck the past neatly out of reach. He was just eleven when he started boarding school. Far from home, far from anything familiar, and—though it wouldn’t have been described this way back then—far from safety. One morning, he woke to the shock of being pinned down with boiling water being pou